Here are some thoughts on the role of "farm wife" in comparison to "farmer," with regard to male and female roles on farms during my lifetime, (1950s to today,) here in Iowa USA. This was inspired by your discussion questions.
It's called: "Farmer Vs Farm Wife: Which is Most Highly Valued," but it addresses more than that: https://www.facebook.com/notes/brad-wilson/farmer-vs-farm-wife-which-is-most-highly-valued/1388893231148421/.
Г-н Brad Wilson